Embracing a New Chapter of Self-Investment: How to Show Up For Yourself
“Showing up for yourself is essential.”- Unknown
At 38, a Black man in Las Vegas finds himself standing at the crossroads of reflection and reinvention. With a college degree in hand, a stable career, and multiple side hustles in motion, he embodies resilience and ambition. Life in this bustling desert city has sharpened his entrepreneurial instincts and opened new avenues to wealth-building. Yet, what sets this chapter apart is not the grind — it’s the intentional decision to show up for himself. Not out of necessity, but out of clarity. The kind of clarity that only comes with age, experience, and the lessons forged through past missteps.
His 20s were a blur of obligation and misaligned loyalty. Back then, he extended himself freely — often to people who saw his generosity as a resource to exploit, not a virtue to protect. While he holds no regret for the time and energy poured into caring for his parents — who were a pillar of love and support during his formative years — he now sees how much he sacrificed for others who did not reciprocate that same care. It wasn’t just about time lost; it was about momentum delayed. The skills he could’ve learned, the financial habits he could’ve cultivated, the confidence he could’ve nurtured — all these were deferred in service to someone else’s comfort.
Now, with hindsight and a steady hand on the wheel of his life, he’s realigning his focus. Las Vegas offers distractions, but he’s tuned in to a different frequency — one that’s about internal growth, financial literacy, and strategic upskilling. Whether it’s learning a new language or code, diving into real estate, or sharpening his negotiation tactics, he is preparing himself for the next elevation. His mindset has matured from reactive to proactive. Every move is a step toward his own long-term freedom.
More than anything, he’s choosing to bet on himself. Not in a desperate way, but with calm conviction. The kind that says: I’ve learned. I’ve grown. I’m still building. He understands now that showing up for himself isn’t selfish — it’s sacred. It’s a form of discipline and love that pays dividends. In his reflection is no bitterness, only wisdom. The best investment he’ll ever make is the one he’s finally prioritizing: himself.
Here's how to show up for yourself more:
Commit to your goals, habits, and practices. If you make a promise to yourself, hold on to it. This is the most effective way to build solid self-confidence, self-trust and become a magnet for the right people and valuable opportunities.
Listen to your intuition. Trust your inner guidance, which directs you toward your highest good and shields you from potential
Be authentic about your emotions. Embrace the full spectrum of feelings and communicate your needs clearly. Wisely set boundaries and don’t be afraid to say no to others.
Practice unapologetic self-forgiveness and be generous about forgiving others. You don’t deserve to hold onto any negative emotions and live with the burden or resistance. The past is the past, and it’s your responsibility to move on in order to create: beautiful life experience for yourself now
Prioritize your well-being. Your self-care and mental and physical health should always be on a pedestal. Don’t give anyone the privilege to make you feel bad about yourself or to affect your state of being in a negative way.
Give yourself permission to rest, to take breaks, and to have downtime. Be compassionate towards yourself and your humanity.
Accept yourself the way you are right now in this moment. Trust that all is rigged in your favor and you are exactly where you need to be.
Focus on yourself. It’s not your responsibility to meet anyone’s expectations or to make anyone happy. Don’t mess with other people’s karma and accept others the way they are without projecting any limited beliefs on them. You can control only yourself, and each time you put anyone outside of yourself on a pedestal, you will quickly be reminded that others and their life are none of your business.
Be unapologetic about what you want and who you are. Don’t compromise for less and always keep your standards high (starting from yourself and the way you show up in life)
-Mr. Burns